Family Constellation Therapeutic Workshop “My Relationship with My Mother and the Choice of a Life Partner” | May 9, 2026 | Varsaw

A good mother isn't cruel. Rather, she sets clear psychological boundaries for her children. The Brothers Grimm fairy tale "The Wishing-Table" tells the story of a mother who lies and is constantly dissatisfied. The lies cause the father to angrily throw their sons out of the house. The sons work well and are well-paid for their work. However, the fruits of their labor are stolen from them. The sons must learn to expose thieves. Discovering who steals from them is possible thanks to their communication; they write letters to each other. This shared contact allows them to identify the thief and recover the stolen fruits of their labor. It's difficult to imagine a mother who lies and steals from her own children, but it's difficult to deny that it happens.

Example I:
A 46-year-old man and a 42-year-old woman. The man was an only child and had a very close relationship with his mother. A marital conflict occurred six years ago; the marriage was in crisis, heading toward divorce. During the crisis, the adult son lived with his parents, and his mother was saying, "I'm not sending my son home, even if he could reconcile with his wife, because he's better off here."

Example II:
A 24-year-old daughter was so dominated by her mother throughout her adolescence that she became invisible to men. Her hostility toward her father didn't make it easier for her to enter into a relationship with a man. After several years of unsuccessful attempts to establish a relationship with a man, the girl became interested in women.

Example III:
A 38-year-old man whose mother was anxious, and whose father committed suicide when he was in his teens. He entered into a relationship with a very aggressive woman who threatened to destroy him, just as his father had destroyed himself.

An example of a mother's supportive attitude:
A woman divorced her husband when her son was a teenager. The mother lived with her son, her only child. When the son graduated from college and began earning his own living, the mother internally said, "I'm not going to breed a parasite in my own home." The mother forced the son to move out and become independent, even though it would have been more comfortable for him to stay in his mother's apartment. The son started a family and has children.

Unconsciously, we often choose our first significant partner who is the opposite of our mother.

This often happens when the relationship with the mother is difficult. This happens when the mother behaves aggressively towards the child, is addicted to alcohol or psychoactive substances, including medication. A partner who is calm, stable, and the opposite of the mother in the first phase of the relationship/marriage loses appeal after a while. In essence, the chosen partner is just as aggressive as the mother. What distinguishes this partner from the mother is that he can control his aggression much better. Women who choose such partners are often very critical and judgmental of their mothers. After several years of such a marriage or partnership, these women leave their so-called gentle partners.

Example IV:
A man whose mother had a successful professional life, earned money, and was addicted to alcohol chose a wife who was financially dependent on him and emotionally submissive. Initially, the marriage functioned well, but the man's dissatisfaction with the relationship grew.
The man chose a woman different from his mother, one who was focused on his needs and caring. He was ultimately dissatisfied with his choice, just as his mother was constantly dissatisfied with him. After several years, the marriage entered a crisis, and the man wanted to leave his family. The solution to the marital crisis was for his wife to rebuild her self-esteem and thus become attractive to her husband.

Example V:
The man's mother was a very gentle person and largely served as an ornament to her husband. The man chose another man as his life partner, someone very independent and self-reliant. The chosen partner resembled his father.

We often choose a partner who has similar resources to our mother.

Example VI:
The man's mother always held two jobs: an office job and caring for a large garden. The man chose a very creative and hard-working person as his life partner, who held at least two jobs simultaneously.

We invite everyone to the workshop who:

• Wants to work on their relationship
• Is in a relationship or planning to enter into one
• Wants to become more attractive to their partner or spouse
• Wants to feel more comfortable in their relationship
• Feels that if it weren't for problems with their children, they would leave their relationship or marriage
• Seeks positive solutions for themselves and their family

The workshop will also include exercises on partnerships for all participants and observers.

• Sustainability of results.
• If the conflict/topic of the proposed work is at the level of the family, the benefits of such work may manifest in improved functioning of the organs.
• Faster recovery after own work.

The proposed workshop is derived from the idea of Bert Hellinger’s ​​systemic configurations. However currently our is a work enriched with several therapeutic methods: trans-generational family therapy, working with the client's Lifeline, regenerative therapy of the nervous system, the client's perinatal cycle, working with the client's stem cell and knowledge of Total Biology.

DATE:

9th May 2026, Saturday 10:00-18:00