Family Constellation Therapeutic Workshops „My relationship with the Father, Difficulties and Opportunities” ” – February 7, 2026 Warsaw

A father is the first authority in one's life. A child, at the beginning, is not separated from their mother; it feels part of her. From the very beginning of our lives, a father is a significant figure, right next to the mother. It matters greatly to us who our father is. A father's influence largely determines our childhood. Children hear and are affected by what happens in the family. Adults often treat young children as if they do not understand adult conversation. However, even young children listen to what adults talk about and understand more than we suspect. By the time children are a few years old, they remember what their mother and aunt talk about. They certainly understand the emotions well. A child hears how women talk about their father and men in general, but they also listen to the other side of the conversations from men. A child understands well whether the father talks about someone with respect and acceptance or with irony and reserve. Similarly, whether the father is doing well at work, with his wife, and as a person.

Many fathers feel that parenting is very difficult. For them, parenting is a burden and a source of many disappointments.

Hypothesis I:

The reason for this is that fathers are absent from the child's upbringing.

Hypothesis II:

Difficult relationships between fathers and children are passed down from generation to generation because they are not getting resolved. As a consequence, it is necessary for each subsequent generation to experience the same difficulties. It is possible to work in a therapeutic workshop with such difficulties occurring in the family history. The result of this work can be a healthy relationship between parents and children. Improving the relationship between the father and children does not happen without realising the source of the difficulties in the relationship.

Example I
A woman became pregnant with a man who was abusing alcohol. Ashamed of having such a husband, she decided not to marry the child's father. During her pregnancy, she married another man, thus avoiding embarrassing questions from family members. The boy had a very good relationship with his stepfather. However growing up, he experienced periods of isolation. The accepting attitude of his stepfather and grandfather resulted in the boy moving through pre-adolescence and periods of isolation. He took up a job, entered into a relationship with a woman, and created his own family. In this case, it was helpful that the mother began individual therapy, during which she worked through numerous ancestral traumas related to partnerships and parenting in her family. The mother worked through many issues where she felt fear, shame, and long-simmering anger toward her son's biological father.

Example II
A young woman came to therapy. She had been feeling very lost for about a year and had stopped working six months before seeking therapy. Her parents divorced when she was five. The woman was the youngest of her siblings. After the divorce, her mother had a good professional life. The father struggled to make ends meet and had a criminal record, which the family was deeply ashamed of. The woman participated in family therapy. The mother's family was financially stable and supported the children's education. The father came from a family where money was tight. Throughout his youth, the father helped his parents and siblings so the family could survive financially. He was also an alcoholic. The woman was deeply ashamed of her own father and harbored considerable anger toward him. All the children were hostile toward their father. This stemmed from the father's absence, as well as the mother's resentment that the entire burden of raising the children fell on her.
The father willingly came to family therapy and participated in individual sessions. One of the therapeutic goals was to establish a connection between the woman and her father, to develop a more realistic image of the father, and to deepen her understanding of his family of origin. The woman's confusion stemmed from her having no information about her father's family: what was happening within it, who was alive, and who belonged to the family. During the therapy, the woman began working and later entered into a partnership with a man who abused alcohol. This fact also suggested that the client should establish a relationship with her father, as he was. Soon, the family became angry with the father and ended therapy early.

How does the relationship between father and child influence success at work?

For centuries, fathers have made decisions about how the family lived, who was educated in the family, who was rewarded and supported by the family, who managed well and amassed wealth, and who struggled. It's no wonder that some fathers believe that their children's career choices still rest with them. In therapy, we often see that when a father blesses and acknowledges a child's professional work, it goes much better. Father's acceptance is a process that occurs at a much deeper level than we imagine.

Father and the Child's Status

The father gives the child his surname and largely determines the family's social standing. History knows numerous cases of bloody disputes between children conceived within legal relationships and those born out of wedlock. Even today, we can observe that when children from different relationships learn of each other's existence, some of them become much more stable.

Which family histories underlie fathers' difficulties in relationships with their own children?

Often, children represent someone who was excluded from the family due to their own aggression, immaturity, a different religion, foreign origin, or a different sexual identity. They were excluded because they were not the child's biological father. Some families struggled to cope with the grief of a family member's death.

Example:
A teenage girl was in a coalition with her mother and fought against her father. On a deeper level, she feared her mother's aggression. Her father's aggression was easier for her; she could cope with it better. In contrast, her mother's aggression was cold; she was withdrawing from contact. The girl coped worse with this cold form of aggression. To help her parents survive in their marriage, the young woman dropped out of school, experienced numerous health problems, and was unable to maintain a job. This is also an example of a situation in which a child sacrifices their independence and future so that their parents' marriage can survive.

What distinguishes our work?

  • Sustainability of results.
  • If the conflict/topic of the proposed work is at the level of the family, the benefits of such work may manifest in improved functioning of the organs.
  • Faster recovery after own work.

The proposed workshop is derived from the idea of Bert Hellinger’s ​​systemic configurations. However currently our is a work enriched with several therapeutic methods: trans-generational family therapy, working with the client's Lifeline, regenerative therapy of the nervous system, the client's perinatal cycle, working with the client's stem cell and knowledge of Total Biology.

DATE:

7th February 2026, Saturday 10:00-18:00

TERMS OF PARTICIPATION:

  Prepayment of 400 PLN at least 14 days before the date of the workshop is required. The prepayment is not eligible for a refund if the participant cancels less than 72h before the workshop.
  Adherence to the therapeutic contract (discretion, respecting other participants’ privacy and data, refraining from using alcohol and drugs).
  Participants who have not previously worked with Teresa Ossowska are required to book a private paid session – either in-person or online – with one of our centre's therapists.
 Active participants (i.e. people for whom a constellation is set up) are asked to confirm that neither them nor their close family members are participating in constellation workshop in the 2 week period before and after the workshop.
  Participation in the entire workshop is required.