Systemic constellation workshop „Why do children go through illnesses and what can cure them? What do children’s illnesses say about their soul and the family?” 24 th May 2025

Children's illnesses are connected to difficult events in the family history. Difficult events include homicide, murder, and uncertainty about paternity. Often a child gets sick when there are serious changes in the relationship between the parents, e.g. a marriage is in crisis because one of the parents is having an affair or one of the parents is busy/absorbed by professional work or illness in the family.

For almost all parents, their children are special. For many parents, children "are the whole world". Parents are surprised their child can have memories of people and events accompanying their conception, pregnancy or birth. Sometimes a child has memories of unfinished, unresolved relationships of ancestors, e.g. mother and father with their previous partners.

All children in a family are connected. Living children can be connected to children who died earlier (in the parents' generation or earlier generations).
Deceased children, born dead or miscarried, can be accepted into the family, which usually has a healing effect on the living children.

Sometimes children get sick because they don't know about their half-siblings.

Sometimes children have experienced something that their parents don't know about, e.g. they were scared by someone, someone insulted them, scolded them, someone violated their sexual boundaries. The setting can help find this situation and end it.

The constellation could be helpful if the child has been involved in an accident, a sudden attack, drowning, or has witnessed the death of a person or animal.

There are many clinical studies on so-called lost twins. Twin pregnancies in which one of the twins "dies" during the prenatal period are not a rare phenomenon. Scientists have observed that often a pregnancy seems like a twin, but one child is born.

Many children who were born can be connected to their siblings who died in the womb.

According to Bert Hellinger, the disease comes from disorder in the soul of the family or the child. In practice, this means that the family denies some facts of its history, and excludes some events and people from its family. Events that the family rejects most often lead to the development of this family.

Constellation therapy can be undertaken when someone plans to work or study abroad. For many people, separation during a trip abroad is a great difficulty. Therapeutic work is also indicated when one of the parents goes abroad and marital problems arise in the couple. It happens that spouses agree that the other person will join the trip, and then the departure is delayed.

In many families, the pattern of emigration is repeated, where someone goes abroad looking for work, or the person dreams of going abroad. Often the topic of emigration comes up over 5/6 generations. Sometimes the family does not remember that someone emigrated abroad. The family remembers unclear information that someone left to earn a living. If you look at the events that preceded such a trip, the real reason for emigration could be that a member of the family, for example, the father, or mother, who supported the family, was ill.

Sometimes the real reason for leaving was different, e.g. a woman needed to give birth to a child whose father she could not introduce to reveal to her family. Sometimes the reason for emigration was the desire to hide a crime that was committed.

People who left were often rejected by their families, e.g. illegitimate children, people who did not fit into their family, who could not communicate with them. Elements of these stories are repeated both in those descendants who left the family, as well as in those descendants who stayed in the country.
Teenagers from both families may have trouble getting and keeping a job, just like their ancestors.

Another sphere of life that often causes conflicts in the family is education. When we take a closer look at who in the family has an education, we will find various interesting patterns repeated over generations.

Example:
A family of farmers had 3 children, the oldest daughter completed higher education, the second son had a vocational education, and the youngest son had a secondary education. The parents of these three accepted the fact that the daughter had not inherited the estate from her parents. The daughter felt a certain amount of wrongdoing by this fact, the feeling of wrongdoing distanced her from the family. The brothers became farmers, just like their parents. The father of the children was the youngest of the three siblings, he had a secondary education. The father's oldest brother had a higher education, he went to work in the city, and while working he completed secondary and higher education. He married a woman from the city, through whom he inherited a large fortune. The father's second brother stayed in the countryside, he had an elementary education. The father's oldest brother was the one who was the most financially successful of all the siblings. Nevertheless, he was resentful of his brothers for disinheriting him from the part of his parents' inheritance that was his due. The brothers who remained in the village felt inferior to their oldest brother and at the same time guilty towards him.

The father's oldest brother cut himself off from the family in the village, and the children of the siblings had no contact with each other.

DATE:

24th May 2025, Saturday 10:00-18:00