Systemic constellation workshop 19th October 2024 “My Relationship, My Mirror – Where Will My Relationship Take Me”

The workshop is intended for all people wanting to work on balance in their relationship. We understand balance broadly: intellectual, emotional, financial and also balance in terms of responsibility for the relationship.

Example I:
A 43-year-old woman is in another relationship with an older man who has two children from a previous marriage. The man does not want to have another child. While he is unemployed, she is industrious and earns well. The man, like the woman's father, has difficulty earning a good living. The woman has absolute financial freedom in this relationship. Her professional work is very much welcomed by her partner.
She chooses men from her father's country of origin, divorcees, ones with whom she will not have children and who are not very resourceful in life.

Example II:
A 48-year-old man with a higher education diploma married a woman who was very professionally resourceful, earned well, and was expansive. The wife is a mirror image of the man. She is more ambitious, more critical of other people, and more demanding than he himself. In this relationship, the man plays the role of a mother, takes care of the children, and goes to the parent-teacher conference. Just like his mother, he takes care of the home and takes care of the children. The woman in this relationship earns money, just like his father.
Both the woman and the man want to have other partners. The woman really wants to have her own children, and she probably won't have them with her current partner.
The man wants a partner who will be nice, respect him, and appreciate the fact that the man takes care of the home. The man envies his wife because she earns several times more than him.

Example III:
A married couple aged 41 and 44 reports a problem of aggression in their relationship, in which physical violence had previously occurred. The woman hit the man and he retaliated. He directed aggression towards himself, while she directed aggression towards others and her partner. During the therapy, it turned out that the wife's aggression helped the man to separate himself from his family of origin. It was a great achievement for him. The escalation of aggression in the relationship occurred when his mental state deteriorated, then the conflicts in the marriage intensified. During the therapy, it also turned out that the wife took on the role of a defender against the hostile outside world. The woman's pattern of aggression was expressed through an attack directed towards the interlocutor. It forced a defensive reaction, the interlocutor had to explain himself and prove his point and then the couple could withdraw from the interaction or obtain more favourable terms of the transaction. When the couple withdrew, the opponent was stunned and more compliant. The wife's aggression towards other people made the man's life situation much easier, protecting him from his own aggression. The man in this relationship was afraid of his own aggression, and felt relief when his wife expressed his aggression.

Example IV:
A married couple in the prime of life. She suffered from depression, he supported his wife and the house, patiently paid the bill for his wife's psychotherapy. An experienced therapist discovered that the woman had an affair with one of her physiotherapists and had never disclosed this fact in psychotherapy before. She had connected the memory of this affair with an ideal relationship. The therapist brought the client to a meeting with the object of her love and affair. It turned out that the physiotherapist entered into a relationship with his client during a mental illness relapse. The physiotherapist was very ashamed, regretted his decision very much and felt guilty about it. The episode of the affair with the client was for him more of a burden than a memory of happy relationship. The client felt torn away from her illusions and beliefs about herself. She could no longer sustain herself with the thought that what had happened to her was love, and she that was an exceptional person. Her previous marriage had been that of a needy/weak person with a strong caregiver who was not physically attractive to her. She became furious with the therapist and it was an important step in the treatment of her depression.

Workshop recipients:
The workshop is intended for

  • People who want to work though with the feeling of harm and hurt after betrayal, in order to be able to move on to the next stage of life
  • People who choose emotionally unavailable partners
  • People who enter into triangular relationships, unfavourable for themselves
  • People who repeat the same damaging relationships over and over again
  • People who are afraid of being abandoned by their partner
  • People whose partners are addicted
  • People who want to see what stage of the relationship they are at
  • People who want to find out if there is a chance to save the relationship
  • People who want to see if there is a balance between taking and giving in their relationship. In other words, how the costs and expenses relate to the effects of their engagement
  • People who cannot cope with their partner's verbal or non-verbal aggression and want to see what is behind the partner's aggression and what can be done about it
  • People who want to work on their own or other topics
  • A separate target group are people who are thinking about expanding their family, planning to conceive a child. We invite to the workshop people who have fears or difficult experiences related to conceiving a child (previous miscarriages, giving birth to a sick child...)

What distinguishes our work?

  • Long-lasting results
  • If the conflict/topic of the reported work is at the level of the family, the results of the work at the workshop may manifest themselves in the improvement of the functioning of the boy organs
  • Faster recovery of balance after own work

The workshop originates form the Bert Hellinger’s constellations. However currently our work is enriched other therapeutic methods such as trans-generational family therapy, working with client’s mother cell and lifeline, regenerative therapy of the nervous system, perinatal cycle and knowledge of Total Biology.

DATE:

19th October 2024, Saturday 10:00-18:00

TERMS OF PARTICIPATION:

  Prepayment of 400 PLN at least 14 days before the date of the workshop is required. The prepayment is not eligible for a refund if the participant cancels less than 48h before the workshop.
  Adherence to the therapeutic contract (discretion, respecting other participants’ privacy and data, refraining from using alcohol and drugs).
  Participants who have not previously worked with Teresa Ossowska are required to book a private paid session – either in-person or online – with one of our centre's therapists.
 Active participants (i.e. people for whom a constellation is set up) are asked to confirm that neither them nor their close family members are participating in constellation workshop in the 2 week period before and after the workshop.